Failure sucks. There’s no sugarcoating it. It’s a punch to the gut, a blow to your ego, and a stark reminder that you’re not invincible. But here’s the cold, hard truth: if you’re not failing, you’re probably not pushing yourself hard enough.
In our pursuit of growth and self-mastery, setbacks are inevitable. It’s the price we pay for daring to dream big, for stepping outside of our comfort zones, and for striving for something more.
Here’s the thing: failure isn’t the end of the road, or doesn’t have to be if you choose it. In fact, it can be the beginning of something greater. It’s perspective.
The F-Word
We don’t naturally fear failure – we are conditioned to. From a young age, we’re taught that mistakes are bad, or wrong and come with consequences. Anything less than “right” is a mark of inadequacy. That conditioning to fear failure can paralyze us, prevent us from taking risks, and keep us trapped in a cycle of mediocrity.
But let’s flip the script. What if you saw failure not as a marker against our abilities, but as learning opportunities, a necessary step on the path to our desired destinations. What if we embraced failure as fuel, a source of energy that creates a brighter light.
Failure: The Greatest Teacher
It’s a chance to examine what went wrong, identify areas for improvement, and refine your approach. It’s an opportunity to develop resilience, grit, and a thicker skin. It’s a chance to prove to yourself that you can get back up, dust yourself off, and keep it stepping.
Reframing Failure
Own it: Quit sweeping it under the rug or disregard the event as if it didn’t happen. Acknowledge it, accept it, and take responsibility for your part in it.
Analyze it: Dissect the failure. What went wrong? What could you have done differently? What lessons can you learn from this experience?
Learn from it: People generally stop here, as in they will continue to make the same mistakes and instead find ways to justify their actions. Don’t be that person. Use the lessons you’ve learned to refine your strategies, skills, and approach to future challenges with a new perspective.
Move on: Don’t dwell on the past. Don’t get stuck on the what if’s and could be’s. Use the failure as fuel. Channel your energy into action. Make adjustments. Keep it moving.
The Antidote to Failure
The key to reframing failure is developing a growth mindset. You may hear “growth mindset” a lot, so in short, develop a new way of looking at the world – that you have the ability to shape the way you view the events of a situation, even if your knee-jerk reaction is different. In other words, challenges are opportunities for growth, not threats to your self-worth.
Permanent failures -> No, temporary roadblocks.
The Bottom Line
Failure is a part of life. And even more so if you’re actually trying. Let it teach you, challenge you, and ultimately make you more prepared. The truth is, the only real failure is the failure to try, the failure to learn, and the failure to get back up and keep moving forward.